So this may be a little off topic, but I constantly see people mocking the concept of “Toxic Masculinity” because thanks to modern culture and media we have come to believe that this archetype is what defines a “real man”. But really, we couldn’t be further from the truth, you know that if you list the traits of a “Toxic” person, know what you get? you get a bully.
As someone who has dealt with the concept personally and through studies, let me tell you there are a lot of people who have a misconceived notion of what it is and why we don’t need it in our everyday lives.
“Toxic Masculinity” It’s a phrase that is often misunderstood and can seem wildly insulting. Conservatives conjure images of far left junkies with 16 genders getting triggered, while far-left enthusiasts see conservatives as clan members who hit their wives. (This seem really stupid…. but the first was an explanation given to me by a conservative, and the latter was one given to me by someone in the far left)
In the Social Sciences and Psychology “Toxic masculinity”, much like its counterpart “Toxic Feminism”(which also must be addressed) deals psychological traits that though minor in the beginning, can lead to harm, either of the self or others.
Some people will see it (like the Gillette commercial) and be all up in arms because they see something that they have always identified as strong traits or they (falsy) feel like traits are being targeted when in fact they are not.
I’m not going to go into the deep psychology of it because there are people who research this topic their entire lives and I simply don’t understand the subject well enough to explain it in a way others, including myself, could understand.
What is important is understanding the day-to-day ramifications of it.
To be honest, I’ve found that most people who are abusive don’t even realise it and often it is something tiny that builds up over time, like tiny little paper cuts until over time it becomes so deep that a quick fix bandage just won’t cut it.
In Australia “Toxic Masculinity” is not a new concept… Organisations like Beyond blue, Suicide Helpline and other mental health organisations have been combatting it since they first opened.
What they combat is the concepts of “Men don’t cry”, “Men don’t ask for help” or even “I’m too tough to ask for help”
…. Well let’s be honest, the global male depression, anxiety and suicide rates suggest otherwise.
Things can build up so far that you don’t know who you are anymore, toxics habits can form like alcohol or drug abuse, domestic violence or even suicide.
You’re not alone, never be afraid to ask for help, there will always be someone out there who can help
This is just a quick one to address something I’d seen.
If you’d like me to discuss this further feel free to comment.